by Hokuma Karimova |
Once the dreaming is done, it’s time to embody the new you.
In order to become anything, its necessary to know the details of what you’re aiming for.
The previous steps then become invaluable guides to reaching the end with clarity and conviction. Supplying you with infinite passion for meeting the new version of you.
Throughout this entire journey, there is one thing that can’t be downplayed, and that is, how we learn new things. By knowing the scientific steps of mastering a new idea or concept, we gain access to a framework that expedites the change.
The is where Step 5 plays in
Ask yourself: What’ll sustain change?
Step by step.
As you know, nature takes its time. In fact, when things in nature move extremely quickly, they tend to have a nature of destruction and instability.
Things like floods, wildfires, hurricanes, droughts, and so many other extreme occurrences come as quickly as they leave, but behind them is nothing but damage.
On the level of interactions we find that the relationships we rush into can feel exciting at first, but soon notice that the bond lacks the depth to withstand oncoming storms. Without the desire to commit to something, we won’t have the strength to face difficult challenges.
That’s because, in order for things to be of true significance, they need to come from deep within. A place where our true essence gets transformed and forms our new identity.
How can you create consistency and commitment to the desired future?
Questions to reflect on:
– How do you manage your time?
– What gets most of your focus throughout the day?
– How do you design your days?
Four stages of learning.
There are four stages to change.
They are:
1. unconscious incompetence: we are unaware of the change
2. conscious incompetence: we become aware of what’s no longer serving us
3. conscious competence: we get very clear and specific on the future we want
4. unconscious competence: we embody the new self on a daily basis through habits
See what stage of this development you are on in the following areas of your life:
*time management
*desires
*goals
*plans
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Without real intention, and a consciousness effort to discover the future you desire to create, it will be hard to see through all the layers of your conditioning.
That’s because through life our mind has absorbed lots of information. Some of it may be projections from others and thus contributes to limiting beliefs.
These traumas from our childhood delay our growth. Without the right tools and a sharp mind to see past the false labels, we adopted it can take ages for us to reach our full potential.
Going on this journey alone can be exhausting, overwhelming and daunting. Moving forward in a supportive group can transform this process into something beautiful.
Don’t miss this opportunity to meet yourself.
There’s so much to see.
Sing up today!
by Hokuma Karimova |
What do you do in your free time?
For many, free time means rewarding yourself with relaxation that involves binge watching tv, scrolling through social media, or disconnecting through other means that shut the mind off.
While these avenues are common and do provide a quick fix, they can also be disempowering, especially if the invested time doesn’t return anything of true benefit.
That’s because when most of our attention is spent on engaging with the outside world, either by carrying out the responsibilities it assigns to us or by consuming what it feeds us, we end up forgetting to tend to our inner world.
Step 4 is, therefore…
Asking yourself: What’s missing?
Making space.
The best way to discover what our needs are is to make space for their expression. This can be expedited and aided by tuning into our creative energy.
Whether it’s done through daydreaming, making art, moving the body, writing out ideas, or conversing with another, the goal is to redirect the energy from the outside in, to the inside out.
Releasing the buried intentions helps balance energies, and turns us into the creators of our life.
We are energetic creatures, so learning to align our intentions, feelings, and behaviors with the outcomes we seek to experience, can help us realize these goals faster.
What needs to be in place in order for you to move towards your goals?
Questions to reflect on:
– What ignites your passion and sparks your imagination?
– What would a different future look like?
– If you could create something, what would you make?
Putting things into words.
Depending on what it is that we are aiming for, we can either find it easy or very difficult to disclose our thoughts to others. Sometimes the world is not ready, or simply, uncomfortable with what we say because it goes against the dominant beliefs around us.
It’s a normal occurrence, which is why finding a group or a tribe that is also passionate about what you care is so necessary.
Finding such sanctuaries requires us to find, engage and contribute to existing communities, or to create our own.
See what patterns emerge when you look at your
*intentions
*priorities
*collaborations
*focus areas
If we don’t take the time to ignite our imagination and ponder all the details, it will be hard to share them with others.
Stepping into the role of the creator can be difficult and scary. Learning to get comfortable with it requires faith and belief in oneself.
This is where life asks us to surrender to our dreams, and for a minute to stop questioning about how, when or why it can happen, and instead tap into how it feels to share it with others.
Rather than wondering how to explain yourself to another, imagine what kind of environment such an interaction could feel like.
This deep connection with the outcome can help our inner voice guide us to the truth, and enable us to see things in a broader, more expansive and innovative way.
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The answers won’t be found in the outside.
Look within.
by Hokuma Karimova |
What do you think creates intimacy?
There are a number of ways to answer this question, one such response can be – strong bonds, which are made possible through shared values.
When two people can deeply agree on how to prioritize time, where to channel their attention, and what to spend their energy on, it’s likely they will have more common ground on which to build and grow together.
Often times though, in the hopes of being liked and accepted, we agree to things that don’t actually spark our hearts. We engage in this behavior to please others.
Unfortunately, this approach depletes our energy, leaves us hollow and makes us sad.
Therefore, even if we do manage to keep a relationship going in the short-term, it won’t’ be sustainable, and seem like endless work, that doesn’t necessarily fill us with joy in the long-term.
Step 3 of the process
Ask yourself: What can help you?
Creating something meaningful.
The word ‘values’ is very popular.
Everyone talks about it, but what does it actually mean?
Our values are the seeds of our happiness. Each individual carries a different expression of this seed. Thus, the germination and growing process of each seed is different. Without optimum environments, with the right soil of understanding, and the water of love, the caring for such a sprout can interrupt its growth and evolution.
Human beings are constantly looking for ways to grow happiness through their relationships, careers and personal hobbies.
Sometimes the mind likes to guide the way with what seems most ‘logical’, which is code for familiar. Yet what is known won’t make for enriching ground, because if it was, your garden would already be in bloom.
How we embody and express our values, determines whether someone, something or someplace is in alignment with our true nature, and can help us thrive through the incubation process.
When we agree to go along with the needs and wishes of another, forgoing our own, we destroy the fragile and subtle balance of energy required for growth.
Through sharing our needs with clarity, confidence and care, we can continue to strengthen the bonds that serve us, while pruning interactions that drain us.
Determine what inspires you and motivates you to dream.
Questions to reflect on:
– What topics bring you inspiration?
– What would a different future look like?
– If you could create something, what would you make?
Setting boundaries.
Some fruits are so potent and rich that they become too heavy for the fragile vines that made them. Such crops require more stable support, that allows them to grow without falling.
For humans, rather than waiting for such aid from the outside, its more effective and efficient to create it from the inside. This is done with the help of boundaries.
What patterns do you see when you look at your:
*interests
*passions
*dreams
*creative outlets
Having a set parameter of what we will tolerate or won’t, can create a sturdy container to help with conserving energy, channelling the focus on the outcome, and maintaining balance.
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Life is hurriedly moving you forward.
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by Hokuma Karimova |
Ever felt like you are having a conversation with someone, yet no matter how close you are standing, the distance between you keeps growing?
It’s even possible that every attempt you make to bridge the gap just makes things worse.
This is common when people embody different communication styles.
The trick is to learn how to speak from the perspective that the other person might understand. However, most of us are unaware that there are different styles.
Giving perfect explanation to why the more we try to emphasize and highlight our point of view, the more uncomfortable, irritable and angry the conversation becomes.
This is where Step 2 comes into play.
Ask yourself: What delays you?
Aftermath of conflict
When conflicts arise in our family, friendship or romantic dynamics, things become hard to process and accept. Small misunderstandings can blow up into huge problems. The added drama and stress can turn life into living hell.
Countless nights are spent contemplating what was said. Endless energy is invested in replaying the scenes of the past, with hopes it will bring clarity on how to solve it. Yet, nothing can erase the real problem – the discomfort that we feel within.
Sometimes, people can use this pressure to manipulate, guilt trip and shame us. Falsely implying that we alone are responsible for what happened. Even if it was beyond our control.
Most of the time, the need to project our problems on to others, or even the opposite, the habit of blaming ourselves, comes from hidden self-limiting beliefs that are left unexplored in the unconscious corners of our mind.
A place where uncomfortable experiences are buried, awaiting our love to be released.
This is the source of all the discomfort that gets activated during conflicts.
In these moments, the wounds that make us feel unlovable are screaming for approval.
To identity these limiting self-beliefs reflect on:
– What is difficult for me to communicate?
– What does my energy level reveal about me?
– How are my relationships influencing my feelings?
Healing the wound
This sense of inadequacy is present in most human beings and is the big culprit of why individuals become so reactive.
By learning to embody a more open form of communication, where we leave room for listening, speaking without interruption, looking to understand other perspectives rather than defend our own, opens space for healing and connection.
Through this mutual desire for reciprocity, we begin to trust again, and integrate unprocessed emotions, leading to emotional and spiritual wholeness.
Being the first person to change is not easy, but it is vital for leading the way towards harmony.
Analyze what patterns of tension you notice in the following areas
Life areas to look at:
*friendships
*family dynamics
*communication styles
*energy level
Where to start?
Having some kind of roadmap in a completely new territory is helpful in navigating difficult situations. Without some guidance or reassurance, we feel lost, hopeless, nervous and fearful.
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Healing is not only possible but undeniable when we intentionally walk towards it.
by Hokuma Karimova |
As humans, we have a tendency to avoid pain.
It’s natural. Survival contributes to our longevity, prolonged happiness, and the promise of new experiences.
There is a sense of something beautiful awaiting you in the future, so why would anyone want to miss on this opportunity?
Unfortunately, our current lifestyle has exhausted our nervous system. The need to survive has put us into an endless hamster wheel, that keeps the energies stuck in fight or flight mode.
While we wish for long life, it ends up being less enjoyable, more tumultuous and depressing.
Stress, burnout, anxiety, depression and countless other emotions are proof that our nervous system needs a break. Instead of us controlling our sensations, sensations are controlling us.
So, Step 1 comes into play.
Ask yourself: Where are you?
Physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and financially.
Thoughts — > Emotions
If you’re wondering about the mechanics of this process then read on.
You’ll see that our thoughts lay the foundation, a container of sorts, that determines how we process the incoming information from the world around us. These thoughts paint a mental story, which shapes how we feel. That’s how the energy around us gets imprinted with emotions, explaining the notion that “emotions are energy in motion”.
To be empowered by our emotions we need to manage our thoughts. This is influenced by how we communicate with ourselves and others. The reasoning is how we explain the interconnection of what we see. How we string this logic influences how we approach life.
Honestly reflect on how you feel, think, and operate at this moment.
Here are questions to reflect on:
– What makes me feel inadequate?
– What is my self-doubt tied to?
– Why do I feel restless?
Poor Communication
This is where we run into problems.
Each individual sees life from a different angle. Our varying views and perceptions are healthy, normal, and most importantly, wonderful!
Diversity makes life around richer, more vibrant, and fun. Just take a look at nature. Not only is it a master at creating diverse ecosystems, it also knows how to keeps things in constant motion with the changing seasons.
Sadly, when our feelings are unbalanced, we get super sensitive, which shortens the fuse of patience. It impacts our ability to listen and understand without judgement. Through good communication, and a willingness to bridge any gaps, we can find solutions.
Without this, problems are usually avoided, denied, and the pent up pressure leads to tension.
You can spot the parts of your identity that need healing by seeing where you carry sensitivity.
Life areas to look at:
*recurring fears
*things you avoid
*mental chatter
*areas that feel stuck
What can we do?
Finding a way to create space for compassionate acceptance is vital.
Also, it’s essential to highlight that acceptance does not mean agreement. It just means that all views and feelings are valid, without needing to be changed or twisted to fit some standard.
Especially, if the views under question do not harm or belittle anyone else.
Developing tools that help us create and facilitate such spaces are life changing.
Not just for ourselves, but for the people around us.
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